☕ how I’m surviving being a maid of honor (and barely staying sane)

the role of the maid of honour

When your sister gets married, it’s all excitement and happy tears... until you realise you’re also the maid of honor.
And not just any maid of honor — apparently, I’m the main maid of honor. Lucky me.

Basically, that means I get to support my sister, plan half the wedding, and somehow make all the decisions that she can’t (which is most of them). Sounds like a breeze, right?

decisions, decisions...

Let’s just say, making decisions isn’t exactly my sister’s superpower.
So, together with the other maid of honor and the future mother-in-law, we’re deep in the wedding trenches — picking decorations, dresses, restaurants, you name it.
And honestly? It’s a lot.
It feels like everything depends on us getting it "just right" so the big day will be as perfect as she dreams.
The closer we get to the wedding (yes, plural – there are multiple ceremonies), the crazier it all gets.
Last-minute decisions? Endless. Stress levels? Sky-high.

challenges and stress

Somewhere between picking napkin colors and emergency group chats, it hits me:
this is a lot of pressure.
The bride doesn’t really see how much chaos is going on behind the scenes — and her fiancé? Let's just say he’s very much enjoying being a guest at his own wedding.
At this point, it honestly feels like we maids of honor are carrying the whole thing on our backs.

It’s a weird mix of feeling excited for her and feeling like I need a week-long nap.
And as much as I try to be there for her, there are moments where it feels... heavy.
A lot of time, a lot of energy, and, to be honest, not always a lot of appreciation.
Sometimes, the only thing she notices is when something doesn’t happen exactly how she imagined it.

She’s super emotional right now, and I’m really hoping that some of the things she said weren’t meant the way they sounded.
Guess we’ll see once the wedding madness is over.

Until then, I’m doing my best to be there for her — making decisions, cheering her on, and secretly crossing my fingers that we all survive this without a family drama.

uni vs. maid of honour?

Oh, and did I mention?
I’m still a full-time student while doing all of this.

Balancing wedding planning and studying is... not really going as planned.
There’s still one big exam coming up during peak wedding season, and right now?
I’m spending more time planning the bachelorette party than reviewing my lecture notes.

We’re in week two of the semester and I’ve only managed to summarise week one. Practice problems? Zero.
I'll definitely get into more of that chaos in future posts.

For now, I'm just trying to squeeze in tiny moments for myself — but honestly, it feels impossible most days.

any tips?

If anyone has tips on how to survive being a maid of honor and keep up with life (and uni) without losing your mind, I’m all ears.
How do you support your sister, stay on top of your own goals, and still find time to breathe?

At this point, my biggest lifesaver is a giant coffee — preferably a latte or cappuccino. ☕
For a few minutes, it’s just me and my cup of sanity. 🤎